Dear Annie: My niece isn’t inviting one of my sons to her wedding. Should I still attend?

Expensive Annie: I have a marriage invitation etiquette concern.

My niece is obtaining married and has only invited five of her 6 cousins. The 1 cousin not invited takes place to be a single of my sons. I am extremely upset that she has chosen not to invite him. We have not experienced numerous loved ones gatherings considering the fact that the pandemic. My mother passed last year, and the funeral was our final collecting.

This niece no for a longer time has any grandparents alive — only cousins, aunts and uncles — and this could be the only household celebration for very some time.

I know this is her huge working day, but to exclude only one cousin is really upsetting to me. I have expressed my concerns to her, but she however chooses not to invite him. Is it good etiquette to exclude a family members member from this party? Any guidance would be appreciated. — Concerned Aunt

Expensive Concerned Aunt: Did she give a motive why she did not invite your son? It is understandable that you are upset. It is not right etiquette to exclude your son. Even so, your niece could possibly have had a poor practical experience with your son, and she thinks his existence would be harmful or by some means wreck her significant day. She may possibly also be slicing back again on expenditures.

It is great that you expressed your problem, but I would chat to her all over again to locate out the reason, and if she refuses to say everything and insists on excluding your son, you have to come to a decision regardless of whether it is worthy of it to you to go to the marriage less than these conditions.

Pricey Annie: When my partner died, my son and daughter-in-legislation place me in what was supposed to be a person of the most effective houses for the aged. My spouse of 45 decades died unexpectedly. I was 68 at the time, and I was in shock. I did require some steerage.

The first 12 months I was there, I just did as I was informed. Nevertheless, any individual who knew me would know that was not the spot for me. My brain was not broken.

I am crafting to offer assistance to individuals who are pondering about sending their relatives to a nursing home. Make guaranteed the position has a reputation for honesty. I am in a dwelling the place way too a lot of of my belongings have absent lacking.

Initial, my husband’s espresso cups disappeared. Then clothing, food stuff, dollars and guides — factors you could match in a hand — went missing. When I documented the losses to the head of the position, she advised me I was the only one getting these difficulties. But that exact same working day, I said anything about it to a fellow resident and was told that this transpired virtually each working day.

In any dispute, the management of our property always backs the personnel. They suppose that the team is generally ideal and the residents are constantly mistaken.

For my son’s birthday, I acquired him one thing that experienced exclusive indicating for us. It disappeared. It was even now in my home when I still left for a doctor’s appointment, but I identified that it was gone when I returned.

I noted it to the person who was in charge, and he arrived to the home and started likely by means of my cabinet. I requested him what he was undertaking, and he mentioned he was looking for the gift I acquired for my son. He did not find it.

So if you are wondering of nursing houses, you should verify them out — with far more than one check out. And go on unplanned visits.

It is a horrible put to go, but if it is essential, remember to check out it out. — Sad with Disappearances

Pricey Unsatisfied: Thank you for your letter. Your experience sounds terrible. I hope you share all the information with your son and daughter-in-law and that they get you out of there and find a greater household for assisted dwelling. I am sorry for the loss of your husband, and I hope that your letter encourages other readers to be extra careful in checking out elderly treatment services.

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